Today I turn 23, and although I’ve heard no one likes you when you’re 23, I’m looking forward to the year ahead more than ever. Year 22 has tested me, changed me, excited me, intimidated me, and humbled me. This year taught me that while you’re busy making plans, life is re-arranging everything to make even better ones. It’s an exciting thing to know some of the best days of our lives haven’t even happened yet. 22 felt like a year of lasts and the close of a chapter. My last year of school, my last summer vacation, my last college apartment. 23 feels like a year of firsts bursting at the seams.
Lessons Learned in Year 22
Social Media Fish Bowl- Living in the 21st century, we look at someones Facebook profile and think we know what is going on in their life without even asking. I used to think it was a great way to stay in touch with friends from college, relatives, etc. but I have come to find it is hurting and isolating my human interactions. I don’t want to read about someone’s new job when they update their status and write “Congratulations!” in the comment section, I want to hear the excitement in their voice when they call me and share the news. I want to hear about a new boy in my friends life over coffee or cry about their break-up over ice cream. I want to experience life with my friends on a Friday night, not watch it through their snapchat story. I want to live and share more on a personal level, outside a social platform.
Self-Love – I have a quote I found early in year 22 hanging on every mirror in my bedroom. “We’re are all so worried about being pretty. Let’s be pretty kind, pretty funny, pretty smart, pretty strong.” This quote has brought me so much closer to self-acceptance in world of constant comparison and I hope it can do the same for you. We have so much more to contribute to this world than a perfectly filtered selfie.
Vulnerability– A couple of years ago, I had my first real heartbreak. When it happened, it felt like it was never going to get better. I told myself I was never going to feel that way again, which means I was sacrificing the unbelievable feeling of being in love again. I didn’t let anyone close enough to hurt me for quite some time. This year I opened my heart up again. I found that the possibility of being hurt is outweighed by the magical feeling of being in love. I also learned that heartbreak still stings, but everyone you lose is not a loss.
23, I’m ready for you.
xoxo, Belle of the Burgh